First of all, my friend, you have to understand that a toxic relationship is one that causes emotional damage, psychological damage, and even physical damage to the victim. It’s important to notice the first signs of this kind of relationship, because it can easily evolve into an abusive relationship.
Do you know that guy who follows you around, causing embarrassment, just because he says that he likes you? Do you know that friendship where your “friend” always puts you down to make themselves look better? Do you know that family member who uses their own difficulties in order to exploit your good will? Well, look out for these, my friend.
But what I want to talk about here is not the concept of toxic relationships, it’s why so many people get stuck in them without a way out.
I’ll bring two factors into the spotlight here. They are: MENTAL STATE and HABIT. You must have already heard this:
Practice makes perfect.
What happens is that our emotional side is like a rubber band that expands and adapts to tension. When you accept certain things, my friend, as small as they might seem, naturally this rubber band is already expanding and adapting to this new situation, this new tension, without you even noticing it.
Let’s imagine a woman who has suffered a lot in a relationship and, by fits and starts, managed to get out of it and find a new man. It’s common, sweetheart, for this woman to set the bar too low, looking at things that he DOESN’T DO, instead of looking at his real qualities.
She’ll say: ‘He’s cool and doesn’t care if I go out, unlike my ex’; ‘He doesn’t judge the clothes I wear (unlike the ex)’; ‘He’s not at all aggressive (unlike the ex)’…
Notice that, in this example, she’s so traumatized that she sees normal behavior (common and healthy) as QUALITIES. That’s different from choosing a man due to his real attributes, like his values, his intelligence, his purpose in life, and so on… See?
When a woman gets used to a relationship like that, it’s like any addiction: She begins to depend on and search for immediate relief. In an intimate relationship, she waits for that moment with her partner. In a friendship, she wants her friend’s approval, and so on.
But that dependence starts dominating the victim’s actions without her realizing what’s going on. That’s when, impelled by the illusion of finally being able to change or surprise the other person, she gets trapped in a circle of punishment and compensation in which PAIN associates with the following REWARD.
So, my friend, in most cases it’s no use talking to someone in this situation. It’s better for them to look for professional help, with someone who can understand the reason behind the cycle and treat the cause, and not only the consequences.
See that, even if a woman gets out of that relationship, she’ll certainly find a new one and will start a new cycle of violence, since the psychological cause is still there.
Over all, the person who’s in this kind of relationship has low self-esteem. And self-love… Hum… Not a sign of it. That’s why she’s easily manipulated by the other, who exploits her fragile state.
In the end, we must consider that it’s very hard for a victim to notice that fragility in herself. My friend, how many people look at themselves and recognize what they need to work on and improve in themselves? Yeah…
In conclusion, her fragile MENTAL STATE, reinforced by HABIT, helps to maintain this situation in a cycle that feeds on itself and will, from time to time, start again if not properly treated.
Do you know someone like this? How about sharing this text to help them, my friend?
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